This detachment causes children to grow up detached from making intimate friendships and relationships as an adult, to closely love others. My memories hold no feelings of love because I am not experienceing them right now. So pick your battles my friends and learn about yourself in the process. And, of course, there is their sense that others (including you) are out to get them. I used to do the same thing. Privacy I don't get sick often but last month I had a serious case of the flu, really high fever and wasn't holding much down and he wasn't bothered to even go buy soup for me or anything else. Effective at making you get better because it was boring as shit. Make sure that the timing is convenient for both of you. I have been enlightened and no longer feel alone. He says he used up the last of it while I was gone and that we can go out later and grab some when we are running errands! I'll talk to my wife when she gets home. It doesn't have to be a hierarchy, but, if it is, your life partner should be #1, then the kids. Isn't THAT ironic? Iris is somewhat of a unicorn a zebra unicorn even! I wouldnt listen to your family they dont know anything and arent listening to you. There are times I still wonder how our husbands can continue to deny who they are, and why so MANY people, have difficulty with them. (Daddy issues?). Sorry guys, I just had to vent and get it out of my system. Ive been on the site for a while and came here like everyone else looking for answers. Love, to me, is caring about the welfare of something and wanting to put in the effort and time and attention for it to grow and survive. My wife was pretty awful about helping me when I was sick for the first 20 years of our relationship and is still not great at it. I often try to put myself in his shoes and think "God I am so happy I am not like that". I daze into the sunset and really feel lovefor that moment. It seemed only logical, Im the identified patient right? Your sweatn the small stuff it's normal. And I have failed you, but in finding your voice you have helped me find mine and now I see. We want to hear your story. WebIs it normal for a husband to not take care of his wife when she falls sick? They are more important than you are. Then we must note that he attempts, albeit it is poor and generic advice, to advise you on your illness. I agree 100%. By then its too late. You can find even more stories on our Home page. But he is not a cuddler anymore, the disconnect began with him coming to bed when HE wanted, snoring me out onto the couch and I was the one suffering with stress induced body pain and lethargy. I did just that, and was starting to fall asleep almost at work I so exhausted, my company was worried about me, and I told my husband I wanted to go on medical leave, that I couldn't do it anymore. Fear,is the one that gets the most use, and what he bases most of his interactions with. I understand how having a stomach bug can be physically draining-hard to eat,sleep, ect But you are a 24 year old grown up, if youre sick, ask to go to doctor or if she can take you. I understand what you mean. (Dirt, dust, cob webs, grease, filth, trash, broken stuff, computer junk, all over) Then there is the paperwork all over the place and our finances to get through. Good point. But at the end of the day if it is really bothering you well then you need to talk to him about it and tell him how it made you feel. I was out of character. My wife wants to be left alone all I want is take care of her just be there for her to help her I don't understand when I'm sick I love for her to take care of me maybe just hold my hand any one can help me, After 22 years of marriage , I've learned this the hard way and am done once our oldest has graduated high school. We've never broached this subject before and I'm worried about it ending up in a fight. We don't have kids yet. So a few months ago I rang him to say my asthma was bad and I needed to get to Don't take her reaction too personally but definitely talk about it's compare how your parents handled it when you were sick, it may be very different. Okay, WE?? You dont care about my illness. Join hosts Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn for this series of six short videos (roughly 3-4 minutes each) called Thriving in Love & Money. Theyll offer helpful tips, informed by years of research and based on their new book, to help you and your spouse explore the underlying issues that lead to financial conflict and consider healthy ways to WebOne of the most common is a husband not being in tune with (or affected by) his wifes emotions. Clearly you know it's a problem and you're still in that relationship and most likely going to have kids with him yourself and then act like oh no poor me I still got married and had kids with the guy that's treated me like crap since day one. WebI love my wife. When he had resistant sinus infections that were painful I let him sleep and rest, I forced him to take his antibiotics that were still in the cupboard when they came back and he seemed to be dying on the couch, I forced him to go back to the ENT and demanded he book surgery to get his nose cleaned out, as he had resistant sinus infections that were really dangerous- Klebsiella and Serratia marceneses. (I'm not sure if he came over on the Friday night from 9 pm to 8 am.). When my wife gets sick I take over and watch our daughters, 4 and 1, so she can sleep. Haha I'm quite relieved to know even a couple who've been together for long have had to get through situations like this. He will do things like say "You are not sick!!" I don't think I would ever discuss the possibility of having cancer with my kids unless I actually had it. But, again, that is in the "now", but what about the "not-now"? Life goes on, until Im better. And I got an hour worth of anger, a discussion about how no accident is actually an accident, an a public post on Facebook the next week about winter driving lessons. Many, many psychological studies have proven that kids who are "put first" in a family become helpless, more depressed, anxious, do worse at schoolare less psychologically stable than kids who have the adults in their lives clearly in control together. I know my friends ahave been instrumental in plugging that gap for me. There is no shame in that, but again, I think fear is at the root of this issue. Your wife is negative because she doesn't know how to deal with her angry/upset/self-loathing emotions so she projects them onto 'faults' that you have. How can she stop? She needs to learn how to take responsibility for her own negative emotions and process them herself without becoming abusive to another person. Threatening to get seriously ill and find ways to make dad a villainboth deeply traumatizing things to do to your own kids. Then he kept telling me I was going to be alright. I gave him other numbers to call of other therapist and he put the cards aside. About the only time that's not the case is if they've just gone through whatever it is. Whenever he's sick I ask if I can go get anything from the store for him or do anything for him. registered trademarks of Ziff Davis Canada, Inc. and may not be used by third parties without Do you always expect your wife to cook everything? She doesn't care that I am in pain because she feels my feelings are unfounded. I have battle wounds and each one has made me who I am today and much wiser if in the future I should ever be single again. Qualities many w ADDdo not possess. But it was terrible to watch my child suffer like that. How does someone even DO that? My cough doesnt produce anything other than an exsmokers clean up. Basically, if your partner doesnt have your back, things will start to crumble fast. Submitted by copingSAH on Mon, 09/29/2014 - 09:42. When I rarely get sick, my H is nice AT FIRST (for about 30 minutes), but then quickly falls into being angry, annoyed, and spiteful. I am the best thing he has ever had. It CHANGED ME, and I'm not who I used to be. I have been happily married for 22 yrs. His sister died from alcoholism about 8 years ago, she was only 51. Kids pick up on stuff they're not ****ed. That's just great! Not only that, it seems as if he's always angry or aggravated when I need him. Please ask around or ask someone in your family to get online and see what public options are available for you- to either improve your eye sight or get back to your home country. 2015 was the year that changed me some more. Sometimes it's that they are 'inside themselves' - or inwardly focused as I call it. How many people have you slept with in your life?? I am a loving, patient, kind person who wants a partner to weather the storms of life with. I do agree with you. ).the instant I said I didn't feel wellshe put her hand on my forehead.went..OMGgot a thermometer and took my temperature.as one might think one should do in a situation like that? When she left for work she didn't even say goodbye. He then proceeded to rip me a new one, in front of his parents. Alright. But that was a lot of days for him to be unable to make any time for you. I was "out of commission" for 6 weeks. Press J to jump to the feed. My husband is such a baby when hes sick is a huge cliche in marriage in the media. Someone who at times would look at me and just smile, (as if we shared a special secret), with eyes that showed gentleness, patience and strength, but with a reverent humility. I start my day with positive thoughts of not retaliating, not overthinking, and not trying to change what I can't control. When my wife is sick, I tend to wait on her. Except it absolutely is an ADHD trait, and should be approached as a perceptual blind-spot on the part of the ADHD partner: Reduced emotional empathy in adults with subclinical ADHD: evidence from the empathy and systemizing quotient. I count my lucky stars his empathy score wasn't way off neurotypical, but even so, it is affected, and I do notice he's MUCH better about me being ill when he's just had what I've caught, because he doesn't have to imagine how I feel, he knows from personal experience. Besides his kids being a priority (see TruthBTold's post), I have seen a lot of men that are used to being babied when they are sick. It seems to b Remind her of how bad you feel and how much you'd appreciate her help while you recover. So But god forbid he do anything out of his way for me. I can't help but think there is SOMETHING ELSE WRONG WITH HIM. He refused to tend to me as I was going into shock. Now when Im sick I prefer to be left alone. WebMaybe he's the kind of person who doesn't want to be bothered when he's sick. It was a high pressure job in sales and recruiting, with a manager who later got in trouble for harrassingstaff and being absolutely unprofessional. I need to see if Iam wrong about this. Submitted by sickandtired on Fri, 12/11/2020 - 08:44. I could have written pages and pages in response. Those of us who marry into it, with the person NOT thinking their ADHD is that big of a deal, create a lot of consequences for themselves AND for us, since in marriage "two become one". He has No responsibility for any of his behavior or actions. He literally goes deaf ears when I tell him Im sick. My H, and many others, expect love, support, attention and all the good stuff without being self aware enough to understand that they are not giving it in return and become very angry when it's not provided. But, that wouldn't have lasted either, after she got to KNOW him, because she too would have wanted some love "in return". He played video games.A LOT, and watched a lot of movies, and cook his food in deep fryers which has made the house smell like an old dirty grease pit, with the cupboards, shelves, and countertops, floors, all caked with grease. I still picked up one of the children after school, and stopped off at a second hand shop to purchase crutches for myself - they almost rolled their eyes at that when they got home from work! I would blame him for screwing up mine. The behavior, not the label, is what matters. I get dizziness, irritability, mood swings, left sided weakness, severe nerve pain, and killer headaches with my autoimmune attacks. 50K views, 259 likes, 10 loves, 511 comments, 68 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Dr. Phil: He Eats a Raw Animal Meat Diet #rawmeat #DrPhil #talkshow I bet if I got cancer he'd go "Great! Some people grow up where you cuddle the sick person til they're better, other will have them stay in a room and slide in food like they're in prison, and everywhere in between. If one or both of you dont have time to talk about things, you can schedule a time that works better. My husband has a 'man cold' right now. I was in bed all day too weak to get up and walk let alone do anything else. This is not ok. but I am trying to get past the resentment so now it simply feels like a friendship and some days like room mates but my goal is to remain pleasant and loving, as I would treat a friend. If they get ill first, and then I get ill? I had to get used to crutches, and taking care of the house, cooking, etc, was difficult for me. He despises sickness- like it is a form of weakness or something. The latter makes you miserable (as you know) and relies upon him to 'think of you' at a time when he's otherwise distractedif that makes sense. He had the flu last year and I took care of him. There's a few things that are scaring him, and he is right to be concerned. I said no. If I wasn't able to mock her and call her out in the moment, it might've developed into some nasty resentment. Interesting. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. I felt so good in the beginning, the wanted to die from the guilt and then angry when I realized I was even more codependent with this guy. We've been married 17 years. Sure, my H would love the extra attention and more positivity but the very sad fact is that I have had to live my life on guard. Keep in mind that on his days off (F,ST,SN), he Does NOTHING! I'm curious to see a female's perspective on this, especially someone who has been married to see if this holds true. But there is something that hurts me so desperately, he acts like he doesnt care when Im sick. That's great! I think that men get used to a female (their mother) taking care of them while they are children, and subconsciously they maintain this view as they get to adulthood. My husband never realized what was happening right under his nose. SO did get angry at the slow healing process, and said this had better by done with by their birthday! Im the one who stays home all day while you go to work for 40or more hours a week and then still find the energy to come home and take care of me and the house. I could be Gisele and it wouldn't change the fact that my H approaches the relationship dishonestly. I was a great person to be around but the lies hurt and changed me. Otherwise she knows that I will go down and get whatever I want. WebA female reader, aunt honesty +, writes (19 November 2011): It doesn't mean that he doesn't care. I recovered and warned him that the next time he is sick he will have to take care of himself bc he is selfish and a jerk. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 09:54. Submitted by The Bride (not verified) on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 04:33. There, youll also find thoughts and questions by our community. Submitted by thparkle on Tue, 03/20/2018 - 11:36. Even worse when these DisneyDaddys, lol are looking for a life partner, the first thing that they rub on your face is the: my kids come first b.s. Recently I was knocked down by a She was diagnosed with a mood disorder and anxiety in 2008. Well, this time, I was calm, I got out of the car and changed my mind but he told me to get back in. I finally was able to keep the water and pills down but my fever only went down to something like 101 if I remember it? I don't think this is necessarily an ADHD thing. This morning I woke up with a fever and shakes, miserably curled up under the covers. Everyone desires someone to pay attention to them from time to time, without having to demand it or schedule it . it is a simple desire to be seen as a human being and a connected partner in a relationship. People with ADHD don't have to miss movies because they lose track of timethey just have to learn toset alarms. But you dont care. OP, assuming you guys have been married for a long time, possibly for more than five years and your work is what gets u sick and hurt regularly, I'm guessing she was not always like this. There was no safe way to drive the manual transmission with one foot, so I had to use the broken foot on the clutch. I am ok. Anyway..it was really serious and I can't ever remember being that sick before in my life and it was horrible right? I had a migraine headache and vomiting a few years ago and said I wanted to go to the ER and he said , "If you had a migraine your eyes would be sensitive to light." That is my H 100%! I got a friend to help, the truck, got a place to go, separated the bills (still paid his cell and medical in case he went to therapy), wrote a letter and tired to live with him without acknowledging his last tantrum, my pain and still having sex and accepting his hugs and sucking up to me and trying not to cave or vomit. There's lots of reasons he may have decided to not come over, and 99% of them aren't the selfish stuff you're thinking of. And I can tell you one thing without a doubt or question in my mind? Well, yes, I have an Autoimmune condition that causes it. Submitted by dedelight4 on Sat, 04/15/2017 - 16:40. But I text him and found out his wife was bipolar and in and out of hospitals. He lovesfamily when they are joking with him, but not if they need him. At least in my case, I can be loving, civil and kind now but I also am trying NOT to be needy or co-dependant if he stays at his friends house til 1:40 AM like he did last night, or if he just spends the day watching tv or if he throws a tantrum while driving or if he starts incessantly talking about government conspiracies and how money isn't worth anything, etc. So if you want to connect, you will likely be the one to have to bring it up. I m not saying it s right, but I am not putting in the effort for someone who lies to my face about everything. 5 signs of an unsupportive husband during pregnancy. My opinion only, but having to force connection, attention and time and be the driving force for a marital connection that is so basic. well, that seems hollow to me also. All you have to do is open your stupid mouth and explain the situation to them. Maybe I'm just expecting a bit too much. Pleasure. Later Ilet him know I am very sick and need some help. If I am not in his presence at the moment, I am not on his mind. My husband continued to be gone 4-5 nights a week with activities and my kids were completely out of control during this time, so I was exhausted and dealing with severe behavior issues each evening. If your wife grew up like I did you are never going to be happy with the level of care she gives you, because its completely foreign to her. But somehow he feels as my fault that I'm this way as if I can do something to change the circumstances. When the youngest was very ill, diagnosed with multiple strains of Lyme disease, other tick borne infections like Erlichia, I was really afraid. But if I need or expect something maybe not so much because it wont register as now/love but as someone upset whether the upsetedness is valid or not. Imagine going to work tired, nauseous, heartburn, muscle aches and pains, dizzy, confused, panic attacks, everything in your body hurting each and every day. If I could boil down the difficulties, it really does come down to lack of love as you described. I am, however, hesitant, super hesitant, to engage when 90 percent of what comes out of his mouth is a lie. That put yourself in these situations and then wonder why things happen to you. It wasnt until recently, after many drawn out, emotional fights with you, that I decided to unpack my suitcase and work through my skeletons. I have no compassion in my heart for this and I have no means to find it or excuse this as anything more than totally Fucked Up Shit!!! Do you think you can suggest implementing some of those changes without it dissolving into a fight? Your husband is a narcissist, sorry to say. Yes, I chose someone who couldn't love,or who chose NOT to love. Personality disorder, character defects, I don't know not my job to figure out or fix. I have taken you for granted. Submitted by notgonnalosemyself (not verified) on Fri, 04/14/2017 - 08:18. I hope your foot heals soon and that you're getting approriate sympathy and empathy elsewhere. I really appreciate your insight. So it's easier when you can say, "ok 20% sucks if I let it but 80% is fabulous". Even though we were engaged and had a date set, I still shouldn't have gotten pregnant, and THAT action left me with something that I would have to deal with the rest of my life. Not my H. He'd blow a gasket and likely also yell at me for ruining his life. Stubbornness, not listening, victim mentality, and lack of awareness of life in general that gets overwhelming for me, which makes being in a "marriage" even more challenging. Its an open concept house and he's painted the walls all different colors, but again, half done. THAT, was fear. Ive had back and chest pain on and off becoming more frequent. Hewas an abusive, narcissistic Asshole. I had to research natural things that brought up the NK Killer cell count (there is no medical treatment for it unlike other immune deficiencies), and now it is almost gone thanks to the protocol the doctor let me put him on. I truly don't think he SEES the damage that all of this caused me AND him, mainly because he still doesn't think his ADHD has that much affect on our daily lives. I was hospitalized for 3 days after that since I was infected by the local food and I was pregnant. Although Melissa's suggestions have some merit for a couple where there is active treatment adherence, I don't have much hope of change in my relationship with someone who never gives a thought to anyone else but himself. No excuse on either side. Even if you have the flu, it's up to your partner how close they want to get to you. It wasnt until recently that I found an outlet for all of this junk in my head. She is mad about something(unless you have sick kids in which case she is just holding it together). He got mad at me because I went to grab the phone charger in the wall and didn't see it was connected to his phone (I needed to have a phone with me if I had to drive myself to the hospital in the middle of the night), he snapped at me that I am always in pain and should rent a hotel room in the hospital, etc, etc, and threw a different charger at me. If you ever became terminal, he would run for the hills. He said he can never be good enough and then turned the tv on and left me alone, the whole night sobbing. Got plenty of time to think about it. Please share ~ the relief is amazing! The house is in shambles, and is a complete mess everywhere you look.It looks like I stepped into a scene from "Hoarders", the television show. I thrive from who I am independently although I still try to be a good wife and hold down most of the responsibilities that keep our family looking good for the most part. It was a costly move but I just was happy he was getting help. Not doing anything about it will make you resentful. Sign #9: He treats you like everyone else. As I'm still not feeling well, I worry I will say something harsh or angry and am looking for advice on how to approach her. But the AD/HD is so strong, it overrides that. I was recovering from major surgery ~ he saw it that I had 6 weeks off from work! Run!!! Barf and poop, rehydrate, and take care of yourself. Award-winning bookBuy paperbackBuy KindleBuy audiobookFree chaptersMore info, I just got back from a trip and most likely caught a cold from someone on the plane ride home. (Although I didn't make him do the dishes). She says take medicine or go to doctor. God forbid that I ever get anything serious. He/she is merciless. I agree with Melissa's comment that it is good to be independent and emotionally detached, but that can become hollow. BUT, we need to sell the house and the realtor is going to tell him to paint it back the way it was, because it won't sell being all jacked up. He appears not to care youre pregnant and youre feeling unsupported. I don't trust him now, and I have good reason not to. But it only works if it's recent. Yeap, but there are moments I'm being shitty too so I thought to myself this is just fair. Yeap. Was she sick recently and you didn't pay attention? It took me 27 years to stop being jealous when he treated other women better than me and hyperfocused on gadgets and not me. He told I just had the flu and went to bed. And.as I have confirmed my father ( the Narc ) did this as well? Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. I scrolled through my phone contacts and one name popped out, an old mutual friend of ours. 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